What factors to consider when moving?
You have made the choice to move. Are you still hesitating? We will try to help you make the right decision and make a real success of your move.
There are many types of moves and they are not experienced in the same way.
If you move to a new home near your previous place of residence then things are usually relatively simple. Aside from a problem with the moving company you’ve been using or a disappointment about the reality of your new home, you’re not risking much. Be careful however to pay attention to the behavior of your children: under 10 years sometimes live a change of residence as a form of mourning.
If you move to a remote area, your move is likely to be the starting point for a deeper life change: new job, new environment, new friends, new schools … Some are doing very well but many have not anticipated the energy that these changes would require. It is rare that the whole family finds its new benchmarks in the same period of time … better to be welded.
Finally, if the move means “departure abroad”, leave nothing to chance: checklist is essential. Risks related to integration difficulties are real. Expatriation is also a chance, to discover a lifestyle that was not imagined, much more suited to his personality.
A move is (after a layoff or bereavement) the third anxiety factor. How to better manage stress?
The first factor of anxiety is economic. Mobility with a cost, one can see its income increase while having to face a real or perceived decrease in its purchasing power.
Beyond this financial aspect, as a newcomer, you will face several challenges:
- Isolation, loneliness,
- The fear that children will have trouble integrating,
- The loss of identity related to his new status,
- The difficulty of finding real friends,
- The reluctance to use local transport, for fear of getting lost.
The main tips to follow:
- Meet the locals, do not wait for someone to ask you
- Be attentive to your spouse, your children: they may have had to give up more than you,
- Do not hesitate to change the objectives that you had set,
- Ask for help
- Study precisely your budget “move”.
How to better integrate into your new place of life?
According to a German study cited in the Living Mobile Across Europe report published in 2010, people who have moved for less than a year and a half are at higher risk of stress than those who have already moved for more than a year and half. This is due to a fairly long period of fragility after the move, an anxiety that tends to gradually decrease thereafter.
The sources of stress are numerous but generally, we manage to overcome them. On the other hand, everything must be done to preserve one’s relationship circle, otherwise one will find oneself isolated and helpless.
Before moving, give yourself time to leave your friends. Revered ones worthy of the name will facilitate your departure and will soothe you.
After the move, maintain close ties with your family even if you run out of time. Bring your close friends as soon as possible, you will be delighted to introduce them to your new region.
Finally, do not hesitate to change your plans: if you realize that things are not going as planned, give yourself the opportunity to go back … family, it is also there for this.